Wednesday, March 21, 2012


When I saw Bella's post earlier this week ("I got nuthin"), I smiled and nodded my head in agreement. I feel the same way - like the tank is empty. I'm just out of ideas...out of inspiration.

I differ from Bella in that I'm not even considering deleting this blog. I have way too much pride in what I've written here to do that (and if that's a sin, so be it.) I'm not going away. I think I'll have inspiration again at some point, and I want this outlet to be here.

But I'm also not sure what to write about now. I used to write detailed multi-part fantasies, which was a lot of fun...but it was also time-consuming and hard work, and I lack both the inspiration and the energy for that now. Even Flash Fiction Friday, which I've dearly loved, isn't giving me the spark it used to. Last week's picture was one I'd ordinarily gobble right up, but I let it pass untouched.

This post isn't a cry for help, a plea for pity, or a goodbye. It's simply a statement that the tank is empty at this moment in time. I will write when I have something I want to write. But I'm not going to force it, and am not going to post just because I haven't posted in x days.

I ask myself if something's fundamentally changed...and I don't think anything has. Yes, life is busy, but not any busier than it used to be. The Sensual Goddess still fully supports my blogging. I'm still both a mystic and a sensual beast, and I'm still growing and making discoveries about myself. The journey continues, the views are always interesting, and the companions to share those views are delightful.

Life is good. I'll still be here, and I'll write when I have something to say.

Monday, March 19, 2012

Liebster Blog Award

I am touched and honored (honoured?) to have received a Liebster Blog Award from France. This is an award bloggers give to one another to increase readership. To be eligible one must have less than 200 public followers. (*glances at my sidebar*...yep, I easily qualify!) The rules for this award are:

1. Link back to my nominator.
With pleasure. I'm stunned that France qualifies for this award, as I would think she'd have more followers than Tim Horton's has donuts. I'll also return her kind words, as co-authoring a fantasy with her is also one of the highlights of my time blogging.

2. Choose other deserving bloggers.
This wasn't easy, mostly because a number of bloggers who I would love to give this award to have already been tagged. Doing a quick scan of the blogs I read regularly, here are a few I can recommend without reservation:
  • Lola at Sex Babble: one of the earliest followers of my blog, if I recall correctly. She doesn't post as often as she used to (but then again, neither do I!) But go back through her archives (and her pages of pics) for some fun reading.
  • Fruit Taster at Fruits of Libido: he's possibly my long-lost twin brother, as he's written a number of things that I look at and think, "I could have written exactly that...he's speaking my thoughts." A blog of thoughtful and sensual posts. His blog doesn't show his number of followers, but I'm tagging him regardless.
  • Tempting Sweets: her WordPress blog doesn't show number of followers, but again, regardless, check out this fun and sexy lady's blog.
  • Same Sassy Girl: I know she's already been tagged for this award, but with only 16 followers, I'll give her a double tag.
  • Goddess Aphrodite at Secret Tales From a Sexually Awakened Goddess: I know, I'm not following the rules. She has more followers than you're allowed to have to qualify for this - but since *everyone* doesn't follow her yet, I'll tag her anyway.

Postscript: Three hours after posting this, I can already think of a number of deserving blogs that I just forgot about when putting together my list. My apologies to the excellent blogs I overlooked.

Sunday, March 18, 2012

e[lust] #34

Photo Courtesy of JM from There is No Spoon!

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #35 ? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! Note: Wondering why there is no Top 3 this edition? Read the latest Editor's Note to find out why, and what you can do to help prevent this from happening in the future.

~ Featured Posts (Picked by Lilly) ~

The Ultrasound and the Fury- I cried softly and my partner moved closer to the table so I could lay my cheek against him for comfort and support. Then they brandished a wand and explained they needed to take pictures inside of me. And told him to get out.

Vagina in the Wild - Adventures in Pantslessness - They are self-cleaning and self-lubricating. They are a wonderfully well designed body part that speaks of feminine power and beauty. They leave wet spots on the couch.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

The Ultimate Guide to Silicone Sex Toys – With Metis Black of Tantus, Inc. - I picked the brain of Metis Black, the fabulous woman behind Tantus Inc, makers of some very awesome silicone sex toys. Get your sex geek on and find out some myths and facts about silicone sex toys!
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

As Is Custom
Consent and negotiation
Fishnets and Spanking and Sleep
In room entertainment
Ladies' Night: My First Time at an All-Womens' Sex Party
Learn the rope of knots: Overhand Knot
slapping...drinking...and other wacky fun...
That Moment

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

An Open Letter to Rush Limbaugh
Erotic-On Me
Eyes Wide Smut
Strangers on a Train

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Bondage Insecurities
Cunnilingus 101
Getaway Sex vs Everyday Sex
Gifts from Lover's
Innies, Outties & 3-Ways
Im 35 and My Mum Can Hear Me Having Sex
Mono or Poly
Mmm, the kissage!
Never Pinch a Sadist #3: Relationship Rules
Primary? Alpha?
Safewords in the Real World
The long distance thing
The Next Evolution – Swinging-Open Marriage-Polyamory

Erotic Writing

A Good Day and Sexzy Night
50 Ways to Fuck Your Lover
Blissful Candlelit Climax
Cunny Honey
Easy Like Sunday Mornings
first date
In which... I go to my first party (Part I)
I’m the SlutHow It All Started
Mount'n Dew
Our Sex Diary (Part Two!)
Some Truth...About Cocksucking
She Takes Control
The Chair - The Execution
The Beast
That Familiar Maddening Thrill
The Importance of (Emotional and Physical) Self-Love
Vignette 2: Traffic Stop
Working Out
Whore’s Mouth

Saturday, March 10, 2012


I have many blessings, and right up at the top of the list is having daughters. When my first baby girl was born, it put me in something of a panic. What did I know about girls? There must be some mistake. But there was no mistake, and the universe - to hammer home the point that it *wasn't* a mistake - blessed me with more daughters.

But I quickly learned something that I was completely unaware of, which is that a girl's love for her father can be a very sweet and special thing. My ex-wife, even after our breakup, would say with a laugh, "These girls think their daddy hung the moon."

This past week, I was talking with a friend who wanted to complain and commiserate about teenage daughters - how much they've changed for the worse since becoming teens. I listened to him and sympathized, but I don't share his feelings at all. Yes, they're growing and changing and figuring out who they are - and that's not always an easy process. Yes, they have their own private lives, and there are things that they'd rather die a thousand deaths than discuss with me. But it's still a special and very sweet relationship, and deep down inside, part of them will always be my little girl.

I now look back at my initial panic and smile at how little I knew.

All of which is a long-winded introduction for my "dash of happy" song of the week - John Mayer's "Daughters."

Happy Saturday!

Monday, March 5, 2012

The Beast

You sometimes seem surprised when the beast comes out to play - as if it's a random and unpredictable occurrence - and your surprise makes me smile.

When the beast does make his appearance, we both know it instantly. It doesn't have to be something as obvious as switching gears between soft lovemaking and animalistic fucking. Usually it's way more subtle - just a slight shift in intensity - but there's no possible mistaking it.

We both know that when the beast joins in things are not ordinary any more - that it's going to be special and *intense* - that I'm not going to be satisfied with just giving you an orgasm or two. You know that you're going to be gasping for breath, and that when we finally collapse in each others' arms, there's going to be a feeling of "wow."

Just don't act surprised at the beast. You should know by now that he doesn't decide to come out on his own. No, the beast doesn't come out unless summoned.

Saturday, March 3, 2012


I realize I haven't posted a "dash of happy" song in a while. It's not because there's any lack of good music - it's just general busyness, and I guess I also haven't heard a song that made me think, "yes, that's the one!" Well, this week, I heard one.

I'm a big Sarah McLachlan fan. As far as I'm concerned, what's not to like? She has the voice of an angel, she's a great songwriter and a talented musician - oh yeah, and she's also beautiful and sexy as hell. And she's from the country where I hold honourary citizenship.

I discovered her version of The Beatles' "Blackbird" this week, and I've been playing it again and again. Actually, I should say I re-discovered her version, because I was at her concert on the 2004 tour when it came to my city, and she sang this song, accompanied by the acoustic guitarist. I was knocked out then, and I'm knocked out now.

Hearing (and watching) this makes me smile. And if you're wondering if my imagination is good enough to picture myself as the guitar player sitting next to Sarah at center stage - yeah, it's easily good enough. :-)

Happy Saturday!

Friday, March 2, 2012

FFF: Eavesdropping

She asked me why our lovemaking was so much more intense at her place than at mine. I said I hadn't noticed. But of course I knew why, and I was surprised that she hadn't picked up on it.

It was more intense at her place because her younger sister was often in the next room. The younger sister who could have passed as her identical twin. The younger sister who sometimes gave me saucy little smiles when no one else could see.

The thought that her sister was so close, and could maybe even hear us, made me a little more aroused...made me fuck her a little harder. I wanted to make her cry out – and I wanted her sister to hear it.

In PB's absence, Ram the Sunlover has issued a challenge to write a post of 119 words or less. Thank you Ram.

It sounds like PB expects to return next week, so let's hope we'll see a challenge from him on Monday