Monday, January 14, 2013

What Love Is Not

I saw a fantastic little essay (I can't remember where I saw it - maybe posted on a friend's FaceBook wall?), and I thought it contained a lot of truth, so I'll recommend it here:
What Love Is Not
I won't quote the whole article, but here's how it starts:
Love is not what the movies and hit songs tell us it is.

Love doesn't hurt. If it hurts it's something else. Fear. Attachment. Idolatry. Addiction. Possessiveness.

Nobody's heart aches out of love. In pop culture, love gets conflated with desire all the time. From childhood we learn you can like something, or you can love it, as if it's only different degrees of the same thing.

Love is all selflessness. It's the opposite of need and attachment. To an individual it's a sensation of allowing, rather than seeking. Letting go, rather than grasping....
Recommended reading.


  1. Love is so confusing sometimes. This is a good reminder to keep it all in perspective. Thanks for sharing this.

  2. Some understand this better than others, fewer still that understand it at all...I can only hope to grow into such understanding.

    Thanks for posting...I really liked it (see? I'm learning!)

  3. Oh, don't forget the famous words of me, "Love is Crap" but that's must my prozac talking.