Tuesday, November 24, 2015

The Perfect Gift

I just saw this on my Facebook wall. I'm sure it's making the rounds, and maybe you've seen it by now. But just in case you haven't, it's good for a quick laugh.

Just in time for your holiday shopping too.

You're welcome. :-)

Sunday, November 22, 2015

The Search Begins

My last post ended with the Sensual Goddess and I agreeing that we should begin a slow and careful investigation into finding potential sex partners for me.

JFBreak comments that I've just won the lottery. That could very well be true. I know that I'm a lucky guy in many ways, and I know that getting to this point is something way beyond most guys wildest dreams. But nothing's happened yet, and it may never. There's a long distance between talking about something and making it real.

Frankly, it feels in some ways like walking on thin ice. I have used the words "slow and careful", haven't I? Yes, I see I have, repeatedly. And that's how it has to be. This is a new thing for both of us, and the goal is to enhance things (for both of us), without detracting in any way from what we have. Is that possible? I think it is...but I could be badly mistaken.

I'm happy and grateful that we've been able to have these conversations. If nothing actually happens as a result, that's fine - it's still exciting to think about.

Now, having decided that we should investigate, how is that done? Some reading of people's experiences showed OKCupid as a common thread, so we downloaded the app, and started to fill out a profile for me. turned out to be way harder than I thought. What do I say? How do I describe myself? How do I describe what I'm looking for?

(To be continued)

Friday, November 13, 2015

"With Great Caution"

...or "No, Not a Trap"

Thank you for the thoughtful comments on my last post. They're all pretty much spot on. I knew it wasn't a trap in the sense that expressing an interest would result in me sleeping in the doghouse.

As you correctly pointed out, it was an invitation to a discussion, not permission to go "cookie monster" on the female population. And as Jane so aptly put it, the conversation must be approached with great caution.

Have I mentioned that "great caution" is practically my middle name? (No, wait, isn't it "reckless abandon"? I can never remember....)

Whatever the case, I plunged in with reckless abandon great caution. I noted that we'd danced around the subject at various points over the years without following up, and asked if this was something we could possibly explore?

She said we could. We agreed that our intimate life is really good and that great care must be taken to ensure that this enhances that, and doesn't detract from it. She said that the thought of me with another woman turns her on - but I would have to be completely out in the open with her. This would be something *we're* doing, not something *I'm* doing. That seems entirely reasonable.

(Before anyone says, "Wait just a minute, you want to play. What about her?", that *was* part of the discussion. I wouldn't ask for something I wouldn't also give. She doesn't want to play.)

So we've very cautiously and tentatively agreed that some slow and careful exploration is appropriate.

Now to figure out exactly how to do that.

Saturday, November 7, 2015

It's a Trap!

...Or Is It?

The Sensual Goddess often sends me links to things she thinks I'll enjoy - news articles, beach resorts in the South Pacific where we'll never go...and plenty of cute cat videos. But I did a double-take when she sent me this:
Why My Husband & I Sometimes Have Sex With Other People
It was...interesting. But why had she sent it to me? We often talk about what people in blogland do and write about. Some of it seems enlightened. Some seems reckless...or downright crazy. (Not you, of course, other people.)

SG has said to me any number of times over the years, "I know you need more", and not in a disapproving way...more a laugh and shake of the head in her patented, "You're so damned bad, I can't believe what I've gotten myself into" way.

I've always laughed and agreed when she's said that, but I'd never followed up on it. This article seemed like an invitation to talk. Part of me was screaming (internally), "It's a trap! Don't go there." Every partnered man knows the right answer. "Don't be silly, sweetheart, you're all I want, all I need, the only one I think about."

Any other answer is clearly the wrong answer, and would only be providing ammunition to be used against one at some future date...right?

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Sloppy Seconds

To anyone still reading this, thank you for not deleting me from your blog list. All is well here, and I've continued lurking - I just didn't feel like I had much to say. Or when I did, I somehow couldn't muster the energy to write it down.

But now I feel like I do have some things to write about. All are 100 percent true - except the ones that are pure fantasy.

Finally, and unrelated to anything - here's a vendor I saw at a music festival this summer. Sloppy Seconds BBQ Sauce. Really?!? Clever name...but is that an association you want with something on your dinner plate? It is memorable though, and maybe that's all that matters.

Anyway, more soon.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Visiting Nurse?

I told the Sensual Goddess that due to some life insurance changes I'm making, a visiting nurse had called to schedule an appointment. She'd be coming over one morning this week to do a quick physical on me and take a blood sample. Our conversation proceeded something like this:
SG (with a twinkle in her eye): Did she have a sexy voice?
Me: Hmmm.... Not "bombshell" sexy, but she didn't sound like an old battle-axe either.
SG: And you scheduled it for Thursday at 9:45, when you knew I'd be out?
Me: She suggested that day and time, not me. (laughing) But now that you mention it, could you be sure to be gone by 9:15?
SG: What if I want to stay and watch?
Me: If you want to hide in the closet and watch, that's fine too.
SG: Yes, I'll hide in the closet.
And she accuses me of having an active imagination?

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Survey of Penis Size

No, I'm not taking a survey. ;-) I read about a scientific survey (link is here), with the intriguing title of "Here Is the Average Penis Size According to the Latest in Penis Measuring Science".

Here's an excerpt:
Penis researchers studying penis size in the penis journal BJU International have analyzed upward of 15,521 penises and have determined the average penis length in 20 previous penis studies is 5.16 inches when erect.
This paragraph raises so many questions. There's such a thing as a penis researcher?!? What does that look like on one's resume?!? There's a penis journal?!? The mind boggles....

Anyway, the link contains a normal distribution, so you can see what percentile you (or your significant other) fall into.

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Blogger Relents

As a number of bloggers have noted, Google/Blogger reversed their decision on forcing adult-oriented blogs into private mode.
Google said it has received a big backlash after deciding earlier in the week that bloggers will no longer be able to "publicly share images and video that are sexually explicit or show graphic nudity." The ban was to have taken place on March 23.
Instead, Google said that the company would simply double down on its crackdown of bloggers who use their sites to sell porn.
Thank goodness.

I hadn't decided what, if anything, I would do. I heard mixed things through the grapevine about porting a blog to Wordpress - and most of all, I'd *hate* to lose my comments. A snapshot of the blog without them would be missing something vital.

The thought of going through the blog post-by-post and removing images is simply unthinkable. Partly because of the volume (I note that I'm at 403 posts, making this #404), but even more because removing images will make many of my posts meaningless. I've written a lot of Flash Fiction Friday posts, where you write a story around a given pic. Without the pic, the story loses all context.

So it turns out to not be an issue. For now. Until the next policy change.

Monday, February 23, 2015

Blogger Content Policy Update

I imagine I'm not the only one who received this note from Google's Blogger team:
Dear Blogger User,
We're writing to tell you about an upcoming change to the Blogger Content Policy that may affect your account.
In the coming weeks, we'll no longer allow blogs that contain sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video. We'll still allow nudity presented in artistic, educational, documentary, or scientific contexts, or where there are other substantial benefits to the public from not taking action on the content.
The new policy will go into effect on the 23rd of March 2015. After this policy goes into effect, Google will restrict access to any blog identified as being in violation of our revised policy. No content will be deleted, but only blog authors and those with whom they have expressly shared the blog will be able to see the content we've made private.
Our records indicate that your account may be affected by this policy change. Please refrain from creating new content that would violate this policy. Also, we ask that you make any necessary changes to your existing blog to comply as soon as possible, so that you won't experience any interruptions in service. You may also choose to create an archive of your content via Google Takeout (
For more information, please read here (
The Blogger Team
It looks like this blog will be taken private, unless I choose to do something else in the meantime. I always knew this day might come, but it's a little jarring to find it actually approaching, and with a real live deadline.

One thing I won't do is rail at Google/Blogger. They provide a free service that I've been happy to use, and they're free to change their terms of service however they like.

So I have exactly one month to decide what (if anything) to do....

Friday, February 20, 2015

Elust #67

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~ This Month's Top Three Posts ~

Yes, Squirting is Real (And it's not pee.)

These men make me SO angry

Still Kinky After All These Years  

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

When It Rains

You want me to read what?

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

How to Make Time for Kinky Fuckery

Submissive Power Is Hot Stuff

Topping from the Bottom


Property Milestone

Dead Heat

Submissive power and the storms of life

I Talk A Lot, But Not About That

I Just Want To Be Me

What I Get Out Of Locking A Man in Chastity

BDSM and pick-up artists

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Socks and Sex

Marsala? The Color of My Panties? Who Knew?

Erotic Fiction

Short Strokes: Molasses Makes Me Horny

12 Step Homeopathic Remedy for Scorned Lovers

Alice's Wonderland 

Feel His Breath On Me

Out For A Walk

Playing in the Band


Coming Pretty

The Fall

Erotica After Hours

Dancing in the Dark

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Make Love to Me

I Used to Fake Orgasms. This is Why I Stopped


Brigitta - A Lusty Limerick

Erotic Non-Fiction

With a very sharp knife

black bra and g-string


Meeting Slave Olive for a Cash Point Meet

LachrymoseWhen Two Doms Play...Fuck Tender!


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